Reintegration And A Lack of Resources

In June 2008 I returned from Iraq and was single, didn’t have any friends in Washington, and was still very concerned about my being outed. I am not quite sure what exactly I reintegrated into last time as I was creating an environment to surround myself from scratch. This return home has proven quite different, and what has seemed to be much more complicated.

I am not sure why, but I have been having issues sliding back into my old self, and it sucks. Being gay, I have always felt more comfortable when I am not around my co-workers, because I am able to be myself. However, lately it is opposite, and I feel more comfortable at work. It doesn’t help that I try and play therapist with myself and can never get a clear thought through my head. I feel it is the fact that for the past year… Read the rest…

“This is your chance to be heard.”

Update: Queer partners, we have a date with the Pentagon on September 16th. I believe that will be the extent of our input on their policies, so don’t miss it.

Don’t even get me started on these Pentagon surveys.

Too late, I’ve already gotten started. As a queer military partner, I’ve been pissed about this for days. I have three words for the Pentagon: W. T. F. What is UP with the military surveying straight military spouses on their views about Don’t Ask Don’t Tell?

In the instructions, it says: “This is your chance to be heard.”

That’s rich. That makes me laugh one of those twisted laughs that isn’t even a laugh, just a noise. Why on godsgreenearth do THEY get a say? Who are they to help decide military law? Who are they gonna survey next, Latvians?

Here are some of the most ridiculous questions… Read the rest…

Sarah Burford: Comedian and DADT Victim

This is Sarah Burford a lesbian comedian and this video was done by DOD Fed Globe. Her story is sick. However it is very familiar. So many times, we are sought out and pursued without providing any better a reason than pure stereotype.

SLDN: Letter From The Invisible Families | August 26, 2010

With the Pentagon’s family survey now in the field, Servicemembers Legal Defense Network (SLDN), a national, legal services and policy organization dedicated to ending “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” (DADT), will release a letter each day this week from family members and spouses of former service members impacted by DADT. As the Pentagon reaches out to 150,000 straight couples on how their lives are impacted, these letters will share the perspective of those forced to serve under this law alongside their loved ones. SLDN is urging supporters of repeal to call, write, and schedule in-district meetings with both their senators as the defense budget, which contains the repeal amendment, moves to the floor just weeks from now. www.sldn.org/action.

Dear Mr. Johnson and General Ham:

I am a heavy machinery truck driver; I have been all of my life.  A blue collar American who raised my son, Joseph Rocha, in a Roman… Read the rest…

Making Friends

Hey guys. It’s the world’s gayest military partner, talking to you again about gay military partner things!  Captain Awesome and I are both trying to settle into a routine now that we live so far apart.

One thing that makes that hard is that neither of us really cotton to people. Most of the time, we prefer each other’s company. Even in the beginning, we spent most of our evenings together nestled up against each other in her living room, me reading a book and her watching The L Word.

Now that we’re apart, we’re trying to remember what we did before we got together. It’s taken some adjusting. It’s not as hard for me—I mean, I’m living with five ridiculously hot women who are interested in music, art, politics, and philosophy, which is a pretty exact listing of my own interests. So when I need to forget the… Read the rest…

SLDN: Letter From The Invisible Families | August 25, 2010

With the Pentagon’s family survey now in the field, Servicemembers Legal Defense Network (SLDN), a national, legal services and policy organization dedicated to ending “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” (DADT), will release a letter each day this week from family members and spouses of former service members impacted by DADT. As the Pentagon reaches out to 150,000 straight couples on how their lives are impacted, these letters will share the perspective of those forced to serve under this law alongside their loved ones. SLDN is urging supporters of repeal to call, write, and schedule in-district meetings with both their senators as the defense budget, which contains the repeal amendment, moves to the floor just weeks from now. www.sldn.org/action.

Dear General Ham and Mr. Johnson:

I am a retired military sailor, living with a wonderful person who was fired because of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” (DADT).

Because of my experience with the… Read the rest…

Mark Your Calendars: DADT Lobby Day

Get out your iphones and Blackberries, ladies and gentlemen. (Or, if you’re me, your little red phone that doesn’t even take pictures.) Go to the calendar,  bring up Thursday, September 16th, and add yourself a new appointment with destiny.

That is the day of the Don’t Ask Don’t Tell lobby day being organized in Our Nation’s Capital by Servicemembers United. This is what it says on their site about it:

In contrast to our spring lobby day, this event will be much more focused on the nuances of the DADT repeal amendment that is soon to be up for debate on the floor of the Senate. Servicemembers United will be focusing on the quality of participant lobbying visits rather than trying to overwhelm senate offices with quantity. It’s time to get this done. Please join us for The Final Assault” on “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell”!

Basically, if you’re pissed… Read the rest…

SLDN: Letter From The Invisible Families | August 24, 2010

With the Pentagon’s family survey now in the field, Servicemembers Legal Defense Network (SLDN), a national, legal services and policy organization dedicated to ending “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” (DADT), will release a letter each day this week from family members and spouses of former service members impacted by DADT. As the Pentagon reaches out to 150,000 straight couples on how their lives are impacted, these letters will share the perspective of those forced to serve under this law alongside their loved ones. SLDN is urging supporters of repeal to call, write, and schedule in-district meetings with both their senators as the defense budget, which contains the repeal amendment, moves to the floor just weeks from now. www.sldn.org/action.

Dear General Ham and Mr. Johnson:

My name is Nancy Manzella and I have been a mother for 34 years.  My husband and I live in rural Western New York where we have… Read the rest…

Home Sweet Home, Finally

After a second year in the wonderful place that is Iraq, I have finally returned home to my loved ones. It was a long journey home, and as far as RepealNOW is concerned a silent one. However, I have finally returned.

Over the past year I have grown as an advocate, and as a person in general. Maybe it was the spare time I found myself with in the bland pits of nothingness that is Baghdad, and if so I am grateful. I have found new outlets of activism. Over the coming months it is going to be imperative that we, as a community, come together and irritate the hell out of our lawmakers on the issues we seek change in.

For me, I face the possibility of an ultra-conservative taking the slot of my Senator in my home state. It is going to be my priority to see that… Read the rest…

SLDN: Letter From The Invisible Families | August 23, 2010

With the Pentagon’s family survey now in the field, Servicemembers Legal Defense Network (SLDN), a national, legal services and policy organization dedicated to ending “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” (DADT), will release a letter each day this week from family members and spouses of former service members impacted by DADT. As the Pentagon reaches out to 150,000 straight couples on how their lives are impacted, these letters will share the perspective of those forced to serve under this law alongside their loved ones. SLDN is urging supporters of repeal to call, write, and schedule in-district meetings with both their senators as the defense budget, which contains the repeal amendment, moves to the floor just weeks from now. www.sldn.org/action.

Dear General Ham and Mr. Johnson:

In 1990 – while working as a reference librarian at the Library of Congress — I met Joan Darrah, an active duty Naval Officer.  I already knew… Read the rest…